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Getting To Calm: Cool-Headed Strategies For Parenting Tweens + Teens (2009)

by Laura S. Kastner(Favorite Author)
3.95 of 5 Votes: 4
ISBN
0982345402 (ISBN13: 9780982345405)
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English
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Parent Map
review 1: This has some great tips on what to expect from teens (trouble) and how to cope with it. It’s uncanny how accurate some of the description of behavior patterns are—my daughter shows many of the same patterns, uses the same strategies, and even repeats some of the same arguments nearly word-for-word, as though she were reading from a script. The author reveals that this is all in an effort to break me down so she can get what she wants, or make me feel miserable if she doesn’t. I ended up with about three typed pages of notes and reminders. Bottom line: don’t expect a teen to be reasonable or pleasant when they don’t get what they want. Don’t step into anger or an escalating cycle of emotional reactions, or try to fix them in the passion of the moment. Stay... more calm, resolved, warm, and out of the eye of the hurricane. Face up to the fact that this will be hard, and then act judiciously later. Not only will this help you hang onto your sanity, but will send them a message that rage, bitterness, and emotional tirades don’t work.
review 2: There were so many things that I wanted to copy down and remember that I just need to buy it. In my notes, I just started writing down references and page numbers. Although it's geared for dealing with teens, the psychological strategies will help in every relationship. It gives very practical advise that I can implement immediately even with my younger children. I'll definitely put it on my read again list. Hey, I should add that as one of my shelves! less
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beans
Gives you sample dialogues and strategies. Easy read too. Not psycho-babble.
jeannie
excellent so far; very applicable and encouraging with practical advice
Pweetyericah1
Will reference this for many years to come!
annamin
A useful book for understanding teens.
domene
Fingers crossed!
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