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The Self-Esteem Trap: Raising Confident And Compassionate Kids In An Age Of Self-Importance (2008)

by Polly Young-Eisendrath(Favorite Author)

3.83 of 5 Votes: 4

ISBN

0316013110 (ISBN13: 9780316013116)

languge

English

genre

Nonfiction

publisher

Little, Brown and Company

review 1: I definitely needed to read this book at this point in my life. I have been struggling with many of things she discusses, both as a parent and as a "Gen Me'er" who is trying to figure out my life path. It was incredibly reassuring to hear I am not alone in not knowing what to do with being told my whole life how I can "do anything I want." Fear of failure, fear of making the wrong choices, fear of regret.... I have been immobilized by all of these thing. As a parent, I have been overly concerned about my children's fragile self-esteem, and as a result I have struggled with discipline. Just in the week I have been reading it, my adjustment in thinking has made a huge impact on our home.That being said, I am going to look up her website, because I am curious about practical ... moresteps to change my thinking. Once her thesis is established, I find much of what she says repetitive. Great, groundbreaking idea...dry execution.
review 2: Depending which chapter I read the score changed from 3 to 4 stars. I think her passion for certain topics was reflected in her writing style. Her initial assertation is that you shoudn't teach children that they are special. Initially I totally disagreed and my husband was shocked that I would continue to read on but I said I wanted her to convince me. I love a good debate after all. And in the end, to some point I agree. But I think her concern is more raising children who aren't entitled. My largest arguing point is that you can teach children they are special and that no one is like them or can do what they can do without having them become entitled and self important.I whole heartedly loved her chapter on adversity and many other chapters gave me much to consider in my current parenting strategies and ideas to implement in the future. Last there was a list of 6 qualities she gave to practice being ordinary and I loved the qualities, but thought that if a child were to master those six qualities once again it would make them closer to extraordinary than ordinary as she desires. In the end I was stirred to much contemplation through this book and so like it at least 3.5 stars worth. less

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