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Disregard the title, it's a very good book for anyone in long-term relationship. (It even mentions same-sex couples in the intro, which is pretty good for a book from 1997.)A very useful book, I learnt a lot from it about differentiation, self-validation and how to grow and mature emotionally in a relationship. It's mainly written for monogamous people, but even though I'm polyamorous, I still found it very helpful.The only off-putting chapter was the one about how to use one's sexual aggression in a constructive way in a relationship. It's just something I - as a sexual abuse survivor - absolutely can't relate to or agree with.
You have to wade through a lot of overwritten and unnecessary passages to glean the useful ideas and concepts in this book. But the invitation for couples to move away from emotional fusion toward differentiation and self-validation seems brilliant and useful. I'm glad I kept reading till the end, but I doubt my wife will persevere that far. Even if she bails, we will still have plenty to discuss and maybe try!
Excellent.