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Growing Up Duggar: It's All About Relationships (2014)

by Jana Duggar(Favorite Author)

3.7 of 5 Votes: 4

ISBN

1451679181 (ISBN13: 9781451679182)

languge

English

genre

Memoir & Autobiography

publisher

Howard Books

review 1: I must admit that I find this family fascinating although I don't agree with their political and religious beliefs. There's a simplicity in their lives that I want and, perhaps being an only child, I'd feel like I'm missing out on the community siblings would provide. The book gets more heavy-handed, spiritual, and political than I would have liked. It has a few sweet stories too. Overall, though, you have to take it for what it is--another vessel to get across their conservative agenda.
review 2: Chapter 1: Your relationship with yourself Allowing others the power to allow them to make us feel a certain way about ourselves in the mirror.There are things you cannot change and need to accept:1. Who our parents are 2. Who are siblings are3. The order in which we ... moreare born into our family (oldest, youngest)4. Our nationality 5. Weather we are a boy or a girl6. Our mental capacity 7. The time we were born in history 8. Our physical features9. The natural aging process10. The date we will die Chapter 2: Your relationship with your parents Questions to ask your children:1. Who's your best friend? What qualities do you admire in him or her? Does this friendship tend to build you up or pull you down?2. What do you want to do with your life? Whom do you want to be like? What skills do you want to develop? Do you wonder whats God's will is for your life?3. What books are you reading? What interests you in that book and how has it influenced you? Have you ever thought about writing a book? What topic would you write about? 4. What things in our family discourage you? (Clutter? Conflicts with siblings? Lack of space? Rules? When others get into your stuff?5. What changes would you like to see in us (Mom and Dad)? (More time with the family? Greater spiritual leadership?)6. What projects are you working on now? Who or what are you praying for? (Career training? Mentoring Others?)7. What things about yourself or your past would you like to change?8. If you could ask God any question, what would you ask him?9. What things can I pray about for you?Obedience Game:1. Instant. We answer with an immediate, prompt "yes ma'am! or "Yes, sir" as we set out to obey it! Delayed response is really disobedience. 2. Cheerful. No grumbling or complaining. Instead, we respond with a cheerful, "I'd be happy to!"3. Thorough. We do our best, complete the task as explained, and leave nothing out. No lazy shortcuts!4. Unconditional. No excuses. No, "That's not my job!" or "Can't someone else do it?" or "But.."Mommy and Daddy won't always be with you, but God will." " As we hear and obey our voice now, our prayer is that ultimately you will learn to hear and obey what God's tells you to do through his Word." Character qualities:1. Obedience - is the freedom to be creative under God-given authority 2. Generosity - is realizing that all I have belongs to God and using it for His purposes.3. Freedom - is not the right to do what I want but the power to do what I ought. 4. Self-control - is instant obedience to the initial prompting of God's spirit 5. Kindness - is seeing needs in the lives of others as opportunities demonstrate my love for Christ. Proverbs 15:1 - "A soft answer turtheth away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger."Chapter 3: Relationship with your siblings It is understood in out household that tattling - taking a grievance to Mom and Dad - is not the proper way to handle a dispute. If we complain to Mom and Dad, we know that their first question will be "did you talk sweet?" If your answer is no, we have no business coming to Mom and Dad. Ex: "Jill, would you please do what is right and give m y cupcake back?"Praise is not flattery. Praise focuses on character qualities such as diligence, attentiveness, creativity, while flattery says things like, "You're so gorgeous" or "You'er so smart" or "You're the best violinist in the world" Flattery can create a wrong attitude of pride, since it focuses on the outward appearance. Ex: Generosity in sharing candy with little brother. The greatest for of admiration is imitation. Never joke and laugh at sibling. Chapter 4 - Relationship with Friends "A man that auth friends must whew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother."I became determined to find friends who helped me focus on character, such as having a kind, servant hearted attitude toward others, instead of friends whose focus was fixed on watching all the newest movies, listening to the latest music, and judging others who they deemed "not cool."Not: sole purpose in life to have a good time.Chapter 5: Your relationship with guys Marriage is the most special gift from God next to salvation. Purity Ring (4 purposes) 1. Symbol of our commitment to keep ourselves physically pure as we wait for the one God intends for us to marry.2. Symbolizes our desire to involve our parents in our decision of a life partner3. Reminds us to pray for the man God would have us marry and to guard our own heart so that one day we can share it fully with him.4. Reminder that God is the true fullfiller of all our desires and also a reminder to cherish out relationship with Him and live purposefully between now and the time He sees fit to bring that man into our lives. TRUE LOVE WAITSParents can examine the guy more objectively and can identify character deficits that we might overlook. As the saying goes, guys can see through guys, and girls can see through girls. Often times when a girl becomes emotionally attracted and attached to a guy, she begins to look at him through rose-colored glasses. But then they once she's married, out comes the microscope. The problems were there from the beginning, but she couldn't see them because elf her emotional attachment. Dad may want to know things like:1. Is he a believer in Jesus? Does he know and love God?2. Does he have a vision for his life or doing great things for God?3. Is he free of all harmful addictions such as pornography, alcohol, drugs, immorality, etc.?4. Is he given to anger, lust, bitterness, greed, or envy?5. Is he wise with his finances?6. Does he love children? 7. Is he a man of character, showing initiative, creativity, diligence, enthusiasm, and wisdom?8. Are both sets of parents giving their full and unreserved permission and blessing for their children to pursue this relationship?9. Does he have similar convictions and standards to ours? (How long has he had them? Some lifestyle choices are just opinions and flexible; others are non-negotiable)10. Has he been married or in a relationship before? 11. Is his passion in life for earthly money or for eternal riches and rewards?12. Does he accept me just the way I am?13. Could I say he loves God more than he loves me? Will he draw me closer to God?14. Does he love me?Making a lise: not of height, (or tall, dark and handsome), but character qualities, personal standards, and other qualities, Christian and other non-negotiables. Slow to wrath, good steward of his money. Is his goal debt-free living? And then put these things back on yourself-Josh had to write 5 character qualities I needed to work on in my life and record in a journal the progress I was making in these specific areas. Making 7 key commitments:1. I will not date or court anyone who does not believe in Jesus as much as I do.2. I will patiently wait on God's timing to bring the man He has for me.3. I will choose to save my body as a gift for my future spouse. 4. I will choose to not fill my mind with sensual material (R-rated movies or vulgar TV shows, bad internet sites, teen magazines, and romance novels)5. I will choose wise friends and wholesome activities 6. I will share my heart and inward struggles regularly with my parents (or a loving Christian counselor)7. I will give my love life to God and focus my time and energy on serving the Lord. Chapter 6: Relationship with Culture Enjoy listening to Celtic, mountain, bluegrass, and gospel music DON"T MAKE A HABIT OF WALKING AORUND WITH HEADPHONES ON, AS TO BLOCK OUT THE WORLD AROUND YOU'If it's good enough for you to listen to, why don't we all listen to it!"Chapter 7 - Your relationship with Your Country "Duty is ours, results are up to God" It goes House of Representatives, then US SenatePatriot Academy and TeenPact - teach young people about the godly principles America was founded on and how government is supposed to work.Chapter 8 - Your relationship with the worldJOURNEY (PRISON ministry)?God sees everyone the same. We are all sinners. SO we can never compare ourselves to others and think we are somehow better than they are. He would also tell us that a person just doesn't wake up one day and decide, "Hey, nice day for robbing a bank. I think that's what I'll do today." It starts with one small, bad decision and before you know it you've done something you never saw yourself capable of doing. As the saying goes, "Sin will take you further than you want to go, keep you longer than you want to stay, and cost you more than you want to pay.""Yes, ma'am/Yes, sir." chart. Not "Uh-huh" or "Yeah" Each time they address an adult properly, they get a check mark. Once they reached a certain number of check marks, they earn a special reward. Also- " I never got..""May I please..""My pleasure" instead of "You're welcome!"Advanced Training Institute. Hello. My name is Misty. Nice to meet you. Firm handshake. Even if you are an introvert or don't feel like saying anything, other may take that as rejection or assume you are a snob with a I'm too good to talk to you kind of attitude. And that can make people feel uncomfortable around you. Scripture says even a child is know by his actions. When a child is taught to greet others, to communicate, and to be mature, these skills automatically given them an open door to be more effective to build friendships and to encourage others spiritually. Open ended questions - "Have you lived here long""What town/area do you live in?"Have you lived here long?'"Where do you go to school?"Are you involved in any sports or do you play any musical instruments?"DO you attend a local church?Acceptance is the sweetest language from one soul to another and the rejection is the most bitter. "If you want to see us, stop by anytime. If you want to see the house, give us two weeks' notice!"Girls eat first. How a person came to know the Lord and trust Him as Savior Couples - Ask how they metJim Sammon's Financial Freedom Seminar What is God's purpose in creating you. less

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