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Bringing In Finn: An Extraordinary Surrogacy Story (2012)

by Sara Connell(Favorite Author)

4.06 of 5 Votes: 5

ISBN

1580054102 (ISBN13: 9781580054102)

languge

English

genre

Memoir & Autobiography

publisher

Seal Press

review 1: A touching read to share with family, especially mothers and daughters, Bringing in Finn, delves from an unusual angle into family connection. For most of the story we follow Sara and Bill as they navigate the road to having children. They begin like most married couples, full of hope and simple dreams. Starting a family seems like a wonderful, essential step in their evolution. Yet, harbingers lie in the background, ignored or unknown. Sara comes to the table with ghosts that sneak out; now that she is ready to be a mother, there is little chance of eluding them. To move forward she must unlock her past and recognize how it affects her present. But that is only the beginning of this tale. As we learn of the many snares awaiting Sara and Bill, we spend the first half of th... moree book in hospital beds, doctor’s offices and harrowing Emergency Rooms. Sara courageously lays her emotional state and process out. Several scenes paint unflinching portraits of deep pain and loss. Knowing one is not alone is half of the battle to overcome these private types of despair. For the many out there who’ve experienced miscarriage, still birth, infertility and inability to become pregnant, the sharing of this pain—on Sarah’s part and the readers’ part—will be cathartic. Sara’s profession as a life coach as well as her meditation practice ground her tale, and keep her guided throughout a succession of ordeals. She uses her breathe as a compass and her deep belief in the power of goodness, a North Star. Often the prayer for a Mother’s arms is her only solace. These compassionate beings intertwine: The spirit mother, the Earth Mother and her real mother. As the story progresses her mother Kris comes from the background into focus. The last third of the book is her shared tale, her shared journey with her daughter. Their husbands join them for an exceptional, tender foray into unknown territory.It must be noted that the abiding luck and abundance of Sara’s life overarches this tale. It is clear in every page that she has been given much. Indeed, there is little that she does not have. However, there are many powerful leveling forces. In this case, Sara is every woman in her inability to have living children; she becomes stripped of cushioning in her despair. Yet, even so, she rises above. Throughout every challenge her remarkably healthy, successful family supports her; what’s more, they have the means to do so. Within this loving cocoon, Sara understands that she will overcome the loss, if she must. So, while this story in its raw moments is universal and should be shared, there is misalignment between Sara’s possibilities and many of the people who endure similar circumstances. The riches underlying the success of Sara’s and Kris’s vision can feel remote to the average person who can’t afford $20,000 fertility treatments, or frequent flights, or gifted spa and vacation dates. Even so, there is much to be gleaned from this tale of how a family faced the genetic, bone deep ache many experience to have children. There is genuine loss and love. Every detail is heartfelt and given with trust. Despite its small shortcomings, this is a story worth reading, about a woman who suffered terrible trauma and prevailed, about a mother’s love, about a family who lost, persisted, and ultimately overcame. Finn was born to them by sheer will, luck, and patience. Sara and Bill are bestowed with the ultimate gift by 61 year old Kris. This in turn Sara bestows upon readers struggling with a similar fate. Hope. Possibility.
review 2: I had mixed feelings about this book. I liked it, but there were things I didn't like about it. My comments are of a personal nature, so I'm sure I'm bound to offend SOMEONE. 1) I am a very much pro-adoption. I kind of feel like if you can't have children naturally, adopt. There are so many kids that need homes and need out of foster care. 2) On the flipside, I am pro-science and I liked the amazing progressive science this book addressed.See? Mixed feelings.The book had a lot of emotional parts to it and I found myself tearing up occasionally. At the same time, I also kind of disliked the author. She was just so hippie-dippie to me, which again is odd because I'm a hippie too. I guess I was just turned off by some of the things she talked about and I can't put my finger on why.Despite that, it was a quick read, an interesting and heart-warming story and I learned a lot about infertility issues. less

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