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Savanaudiškos Priežastys Turėti Daugiau Vaikų (2012)

by Bryan Caplan(Favorite Author)

3.36 of 5 Votes: 5

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English

genre

Middle Grade & Children's

publisher

Metodika

review 1: An interesting look at the idea that American parents (and other first-world parents) need to learn to relax their parenting styles and embrace the idea of having more children than they initially planned. Caplan heavily relies on twin and adoption studies to show that nature should be weighed more than nurture--that kids will turn out how they are meant to turn out, no matter what you as a parent do. I enjoyed the ideas presented, but the overreliance on twin and adoption studies did get a bit repetitive at times.
review 2: Brilliant. Best parenting book I've read to date. Even if you don't plan to have kids this book presents a simple compelling argument that you are probably sucking all the fun out of parenting for no reason. To summarize, twin researc... moreh suggests that on most of the dimensions that parents actually care about and for any reasonable parenting style that wouldn't be interpreted as abuse, nature completely destroys nurture in the long run. Parenting does matter in the short term so modify your style to produce strong bonds with your children and stop beating yourself up in status competitions with other parents that don't really effect the children.Parenting having less effect in the long term than most realize is a hard pill for many to swallow because it injures our self-images (just read some of the goodreads reviews) but even if you don't accept the strong form of the advice here and stop worrying altogether and enjoy the ride, I advise most parents to move at least somewhat in this direction. There is some simple advice here that can make a big difference. Think about whatever the activity you signed up your kid for is. Do they really enjoy it? REALLY? Great. Now cancel it and spend that time doing something you both enjoy. They are never going to learn whatever skill you were trying to teach them unless they want to anyways!If people ever asked me for a curriculum for parenting (and they don't :)) I think I would pair this book up with "The Power of Positive Parenting" by Latham. That book is by a hardcore behaviorist who believes that NURTURE > NATURE. It turns out that the two books can be quite compatible because as Caplan acknowledges parenting does matter quite a bit in the short term and in your ability to enjoy your life with your kids. less

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