To be realistic, as humans, we all have the tendency to be jealous or envious of others. It now behoves you as a person to master that tendency and deal with it. The green-eyed monster will always come around to tempt us, we are the ones that will resist him and put him in his place. Below are my thoughts on why we envy others:
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*You don’t understand your uniqueness
If we understand who we are and how we are the best of our kind, we will celebrate others and still not feel bad about our own lives. Everyone is unique and special. Everyone has attributes that set him/her apart from others. Have you discovered your own uniqueness? If you have, do you live in it or you despise it?
**You have not defined your own path in life
If you have a well defined path for your life, you won’t feel intimidated or jealous when you see others succeeding in their own tracks. For instance, if you are an accountant and you know that you want to go all the way in that career path, you know all the exams you have to write and all the steps you have to take to achieve your career goals. It will be silly of you to feel bad when you see an educationist who is climbing his/her own career ladder and feel jealous. Even if it is another accountant, you still have your own lane to walk in. Stay in your lane.
***You have refused to develop yourself in your own track
Do you have any goals for your life? Have you discovered your talent(s)? Are you using it/them? Are you sharpening them? If you are not, that will not be anyone’s fault but yours. Deal with it. Rise up and take charge of your own life. Pursue your goals and develop your talents.
****We forget that no one has a perfect life
Wait a second! Do you realise that we all have ups and downs in life? Don’t be decieved by all the fine pictures we all post on social media. Think about it, you yourself, is it not your best moments that you capture and post online? We all have challenges, sweetheart, at one point or the other. Life is in seasons and each one of us goes through his/hers. So if you think everyone else is happy while you are the only odd one out, you have not listened to their stories. Get to hear their stories and your ears will tingle.
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Be happy for others and celebrate yourself. Till your own garden and be happy. If everyone in the world will focus on being his/her best in his own unique walk, while enduring his trials, in life instead of thinking about pulling others down out of jealousy, we will have a better world.
Now, if you are a child of God and you realise you find it hard to celebrate others, out of jealousy, there is an easier way out. Remember I said earlier that we all have the tendency. If you honestly want to change and you don’t enjoy this wicked attitude, God will help you. Confess the terrible way you feel to Him, how you are envious of this person and you want the feeling to go away. Trust me, He will deliver you and renew your mind in that area and you shall be glad. (1John 1:8-10).
©2017, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde
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