How many times has this happened?
For myself, quite a few and more times than I would have liked…
You match with that attractive guy/girl. You like their pictures and they might even have a really engaging and or funny bio. One of you takes the plunge and messages first. You get a reply. The conversation flows. You both chat with ease and all of a sudden, BOOM, you find yourself irresistibly drawn to a person you’ve never seen. How does it happen? I’m not really sure, though it’s definitely happened to me.
Before you know it you’re sat on the tube heading to your first date with this – up until now – amazing, intelligent, funny, [insert those words which you apply to a person you’re attracted to] and captiviating person. Your palms are sweaty, hopefully there’s no vomit on your sweater (it’s not an Eminem song, you’re just on the tube), your heart is galloping in your chest and if you’re honest with yourself you feel abit queasy. You arrive, hopefully on time, to the agreed location.
The date was amazing. You both talked, laughed, flirted and perhaps told inappropriate stories (come on it’s happened before, don’t you lie to yourself now). You’re on cloud 9, you absolutley want to see this person again. So what do you do?
Well, in my case I send screen shots of his pictures and certain parts of the texts we have sent to my sister from another mister. I then call her and gush about this guy, I say he’s down to earth, seems as laid back as me, swears as much as I do and laughed at my inappropriate dark humour jokes… obviously she’s happy and wants to hear every gory detail, and of course I oblige.
Then something shifts, you don’t really speak as much, you go from engaging text chat to “yeah I just finished cleaning the flat”. You stare at your screen and you say out loud “what the hell happened?!”
I really don’t have an answer, maybe he wasn’t as interested as you thought, maybe you weren’t as interested as you thought. Perhaps it just wasn’t meant to be? We tell ourselves these things all the time…
But what if we don’t need an answer? What if it’s sufficient to have enjoyed the conversation and the time spent together?
Ok, nothing came of it but I still had a good time, I shouldn’t feel deflated about that. I should be joyous and tell my story with relish. Yeah, it would have been nice to see him again, but I haven’t, so that should not be an issue. Right?
The date was fantastic and considering it could have been the polar opposite, I think it’s well worth rejoicing in that success story. Even if you are bummed out that you won’t see or speak to him again…
What are your thoughts? What’s the best outcome from this? Is there a best outcome?
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