Hello Everyone!!! Its’ been a while. Yeah.. Hmm how should I start this blog posts ah? 2018 is coming just in a few days. Before that, I am sorry if my English sucks cause these 4months my brain just rotate around Chinese-grammar-style so yeah.
2018. New Year. New resolution.
This is personally what I want to touch when we are talking about our personal development. I know the moment we step out of high-school world, the situation is different. We (without noticing it) tend to compare ourselves with someone who is better than us (in our POV)
There will be this one guy in the room that seems to be the best in everything. Well, everyone likes him. He is the best student. Co-curriculum? The best. Confident? He / She have it. Yeah, that sort of person. The moment you read this, (at least in my brain) we would recall someone.
I would say, ‘I want to beat him!’
Yeah, I used to have one. These kind of situation is actually feed our competitive spirit to put in a good way.
But the back side of our mind. We couldn’t help to also think about the bad one too. We will say when will I be just as best as him or better than the person. This the moment when we can only see the strong points of him/her and the weakest point of us.
Then, the new personality will be born, the one who strive towards the definition of perfect. We heard this quote a lot.
‘No one is perfect’ But is it really no one? Or there’s someone called no one?
From time to time we keep on reaching the top, but when we almost taste the sweet of success. The time when the others already acknowledge us. Just when everybody looked up to be someone like you. Then you question…
“I almost reached the top, but I don’t feel Iike I achieved enough.”
At least this is what I felt. Why I can’t just feel enough. I just want a simple life. A life where happy occupied most of it. Not a feeling where I felt time is not enough, each night filled with what more things I can do tomorrow to re-brand the old me. Why I can’t just be the happiest person in this world?
Just at the right time, I read this short story You probably already heard about it.
A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life. Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups. Porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite, telling them to help themselves to the coffee.
When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said:
If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups have been taken up, leaving the plain and cheap ones.
While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.
Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it it just more expensive even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was the coffee, not the cup but you consciously went for the best cups and they you began eyeing each other’s cups.
Life is the coffee. The jobs, money and position in society are the cups.
They are just tools to hold and contain Life. The type of cup we have not define nor change the quality of life we live. Savor the coffee not the cup.
The happiest person may not have everything. They just make the best of everything.
It hit me. I am the one who wanted all of these kind of life. The busy kind of life, the life everyone would looked up and say “One day, I wanted to be like her”. But when I turned my life like this, I just felt tired. Its good for you to strive for the best. But, remember. You have to know your pace. If you are following other’s pace just to beat the person. The moment you beat him, you deadly tired cause it’s not you.
Live your life in the way you wanted it to be. Yourself have to know why you want to be successful. Your family? Your loved ones? Let it be. Not because you wanted to beat someone.
On the next post, I’ll share about a story of THE HAPPIEST ANIMAL IN THE WORLD.
These days I am so interested in these kind of stuff. HAHAHAH but don’t mind if you don’t like it. It’s my room of opinion not yours
