The choice to date again wasn’t easy. I was still pretty heartbroken but after 8 months, I decided to start the left-right swipe party and give my thumb a workout. Man OH man! Things have changed in the two and a half years I’ve been out of the game!
Has the dating scene gotten worse? Is that even possible?
I re-joined Bumble since I had amazing luck the first time I was on it. Now that I think about it, I think the only person I actually met and went on a date with from Bumble ended up turning into a relationship. Any who…back to my recent dating situation.
I’ve swiped right on a few guys. Of course, being super picky. Just like when we’re ordering food, the presentation is what really excites us; not just the description of the dish. So sure, I guess you could say I’m shallow and swipe right based on appearance but I do also read the profiles. If there’s no potential physical or psychological attraction, then what’s the point?
I swiped right on a guy that lives in Beverly Hills. We chatted for a few weeks and seemed to have a decent text connection that we decided to meet. Since he lived in Beverly Hills and I live in BFE, trying to meet up was a bit of a challenge as he apparently didn’t like to leave the West LA bubble. (Hey, I really don’t blame him!)
Luckily, I was in the area visiting friends so he agreed to meet at Bandera in Brentwood. (If you’re going to Bandera, get a seat at the bar, listen to good music, drink some great drinks and order the Smoked Salmon appetizer and Kale Salad with chicken. Click here for the menu!)
I already got the vibe during drinks this wasn’t going to be a good match. He’s a double Harvard Grad and a Lawyer working in Corporate Real Estate and “travels a lot.” He has limited time and the kicker was him saying he just wasn’t emotionally attached to his girlfriend of 2 years.
Overall, the date wasn’t horrible but it was evident this guy was looking for something involving no attachment. I think an emotionally unavailable woman would have been good for him.
The only thing I was bummed about was that I didn’t remove the match from Bumble before he did. Within 24 hours, he had deleted the match.
I had a lot of anxiety going in to the date. I cried the whole way down and then the whole way home. I wasn’t ready and was still holding strong feelings for the ex. But I knew life doesn’t stop and it was time to at least make the effort to move on.
The silver lining in this date was that the guy wasn’t interested which is FANTASTIC because I wasn’t ready. I’ll take that as a win.
The first, first date was an ok way to get back into dating. Stay tuned for the next first date that was by far and away the worst date I’ve ever been on! It’s so bad it’s actually comical!
~Cheers!
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