Hi hey… It’s me again your local brothel vampire. So before I was working in the adult industry I was a sugar babe (you can read more about my journey in the About section.) The following is some tips and tricks for any budding babe or girl new to sugaring. Its basically a guide from go to whoa of everything from setting up your profile to ensuring your safety when you’re meeting your sugar daddy for the first time.
Check the Glossary page for further clarification of any of the bolded terms throughout the article.
Buckle up guys…..this is gonna be a long one……
Step 1 – Research
Now research doesn’t mean building a wishlist and googling Louis Vuitton bags. Nor does it mean looking up #sugarbabe on Instagram. While both are highly motivational they only show the end result of a shit tonne of effort and hard work. Being a successful sugarbabe today isn’t by any stretch an easy task. While it may be ‘easy money’ compared to scrubbing toilets and waiting tables, you must be realistic about the risks, the cost and the time and effort involved.
Fortunately SeekingArrangement (what I would consider the main sugaring website) has a really informative blog for babies with heaps of great articles. It can be found here at SeekingArrangement Blog. I find that SA Blog is Americanised and sometimes not totally relevant to us gals here in Australia. Australian Sugar Dating is a blog written last year by an SB. It has a few good articles more relevant to Australia, I’d definitely suggest checking out both of those. I’d also suggest joining some groups on Facebook related to sugaring leaning towards the support/advice type group. I find that anything on a public forum though should be taken with a grain of salt as is more aimed to glamorise the lifestyle and has less emphasis on the hazards and safety precautions. The following post is less about the lifestyle and more about how to protect yourself and how to go in informed and confident of your boundaries.
5 Things to know while you’re still in the research stage:- You MUST be 18+ to be a sugarbabe
- If it sounds too good to be true it probably is
- Most SD will be expecting some sort of intimacy for their money, a platonic arrangement is few and far between
- If you are considering an arrangement where you are engaging in any sort of sexual activity and money is changing hands, legally this is considered Escorting and state laws regarding the sex industry apply.
- You are going to invest a lot of time and effort if you want to find genuine profitable and ongoing connections.
PLEASE!!! do not rush into answering these questions straight away…..I suggest sitting on these questions for at least a couple of days after reading this entire article and doing your own research. Making an informed and well thought decision is important.
Step 2 – Your ProfileGone are the days when you’d open an account on a sugaring website and overnight your inbox would be filled with offers of arrangements with you doing as little as uploading a photo. According to SeekingArrangement.com currently in Melbourne there are 9 babes to every daddy and that number is only rising… after a brief search I counted over 40 new sugarbabe profiles made just today. The industry is booming and you need to stand out to attract those POTs.
Who? Some girls use their real names however I suggest using an alias. Picking a new name is a super fun activity and it protects your real identity. Now…..MAKE A NEW EMAIL ADDRESS!!!!! You can create any sugaring profiles and sugar related stuff compartmentalised to this address. It is an added layer of privacy and is also super convenient with everything in the one spot.
What? The type of arrangement you are wanting ie. Platonic or Intimate will depend how you market yourself and what kind of pictures and content you include in your profile. With a profile which is targeted at attracting platonic arrangements you basically want to steer away from ANYTHING REMOTELY SEXUAL be clear and concise about what you want and your boundaries. Set yourself apart from the pack with your individuality, friendliness and your YOU-ness. With profiles targeting intimate arrangements keep yourself from being recognisable. Cover or blur all tattoos/birthmarks/ moles in your pictures as much as you can. I’d suggest leaving a little to the imagination when it comes to pictures, figure hugging midi dresses with a hint of cleavage or three piece lingerie (bra, underwear and either stockings or garter.) Exuding class and an air of elegance is essential, this means no grainy low light phone titty shots from your bathroom with your toilet in the background. Keep your description brief but flirty and tantalise their imagination. Set yourself apart by being quintessentially HIGH CLASS. Here’s a brief do’s and dont’s which recap this section.
So now you’re ready to start communicating with POTs. Lets do dis!
Step 3 – OnlineAs I touched on earlier in the article…the sugaring industry is BOOMING! With the abundance of young beautiful women concentrated on a small handful of websites theres always going to be the predatory salt daddies that follow. I have found especially over the last 3 years there’s been an exponential rise in men on sugaring websites who aren’t sugar daddies by any stretch of the imagination. While these men may be willing to pay for a meeting, the amount is usually minimal.
I may have a VERY cynical and jaded attitude towards these people but I was once VERY naive and trusting and it honestly brought me undone. Here’s a snapshot of your typical salt daddy:
With that being said and you now having a pretty thorough understanding of the vast majority of men on these websites: I will explain how to go about finding the good ones, hustling the bad ones and everything in between.
3 things to know before we get to the nitty gritty….Online chat with POTs is pretty straight forward….. be yourself, be intelligent and witty and try to be an attentive listener…. ask questions about them, take the time to read their profile and look at their pictures. If you’re angling for an intimate meet I would stay away from talking to much smut or dirty talking with them too much. Don’t go overboard sending nudes either….leave a little to the imagination, be classy and maintain your self respect.
Some POTs will want to do unpaid introductory meets before they commit to giving you any money….. I generally avoid these because 1. my time isn’t free and 2. Sometimes they just meet you so they can grope you a bit and commit you to their wank bank and go home and jerk off. I make it clear that no PDAs will be tolerated and if I feel disrespected I will leave.
With establishing the money side of things I generally try not to straight up throw a figure at them over message. I try to save the fine print money talk for the first face to face meet. However you don’t want to leave yourself disappointed by the figure he throws at you through lack of communication. To avoid any disappointment I throw a ballpark figure at the POT so they know what they’re up for pretty early on in the piece via messaging so I don’t waste my or their time.
To avoid your time being wasted there are a few other things you need to establish over message before meeting your POT:- What are their expectations?…… sex, platonic, unpaid dating
- What are your expectations?
- How discreet will the arrangement be?
- Allowance or Pay Per Meet?
- Ongoing or one off ?
- Your boundaries ie. No PDA, No disrespectful attitude towards you etc.
You’ve arranged a date to meet this POT now for the fun part….
Step 4 – The First MeetingStay Tuned for Part 2 to drop in a couple of days….. I’ve been a busy little keyboard wizard and have already begun so don’t fret you can devour it in the not too soon future! Part 2 will include:
- Step 4 – The first meeting how to prepare for it, what to talk about, where to have it and what to do after.
- Step 5- How to ask for dat sugar how to approach the subject with a POT or daddy and some tips on guaranteeing you get it in the most discreet way possible
- Establishing Boundaries how to be clear in your own mind what you will and wont do in a meet and how to say no.
- Platonic vs. Intimate the pros and cons of each and whats often involved or expected.
- Step 6– Creating A safety net how to safeguard yourself should it all turn pearshaped.
Thankyou all so much for reading!!!! I’ve been busily posting in the last couple of days to build a good content base for this blog… Check out my last two articles The question I usually dodge…… about whether or not I love my job….. and So you’ve been hired at a brothel (YASSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!)… which was my first ever article about working in a brothel….
Until next time,
Your favourite brothel Vampire,
Suki
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