Protector: Unconditional all-around protector including financially mentally, emotionally, psychologically, and physically. He is her safe haven and the one she can always turn to. He makes her feel safe and secure. It’s important to keep this in mind while disciplining. His job is to know her so well he is able to protect her from herself.
Punisher: It is his responsibility to put rules into place that are clear and consistent. He must discipline and punish when needed in order to teach his little a lesson–that breaking the rules will not be tolerated. It is his job to keep the little’s structure in place while maintaining her respect for him and her trust in him. He must enforce the rules because without enforcing them, the little finds she can manipulate him and her respect for him becomes tenuous (Note: Punishments are not always sexual.)
Provider: His job is to ensure she is healthy, happy, and cared for. This includes and exceeds making sure their little has their basic needs met. If he can, he spoils his little, but doesn’t let her manipulate him into giving her everything she wants. He provides solutions rather than insisting he himself is the solution.
Partner: Even though he is the daddy and she is the little, they are still equals. Neither one is over the other nor better than the other. They communicate and compromise with each other and respect and show compassion for one another.
Mentor: His job overall is to help his little grow and learn. He leads her on a never ending journey of self-discovery and helps her be the best version of herself she can possibly be. He shows her new perspectives on her world and nurtures a self-confidence within her that makes them even stronger than before. He sees the potential in her and believes in her more than she believes in herself.
Leader: His job is to know when to step in; to know when his little is struggling taking care of herself even though it may be difficult to tell. He should know her so well that he can see past the brave face she puts on for him and know her better than she knows herself so he can impose his will on her when her own will isn’t sufficing.
Anchor: He is strong, solid, and unyielding; especially when his little is blinded by her own tears. When she is in crisis she knows he will be her rock and he will hold her down and keep her together until she can hold herself together again.
