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Science Of Happily Ever After: What Really Matters In The Quest For Enduring Love (2014)

by Ty Tashiro(Favorite Author)

3.51 of 5 Votes: 1

ISBN

1306295297 (ISBN13: 9781306295291)

languge

English

genre

Nonfiction

publisher

Harlequin Nonfiction

review 1: This book is entertainingly written and informative.The reason it is just "OK" to me that it is almost too entertaining and well-written. Author Ty Tashiro is moving into "glib" territory.Plus, although I recognize that he is going to fictionalize his anecdotes, at least one of the anecdotes he uses moves into complete unreality. At one point, he talks about a teen who loses her virginity on Christmas Eve and then spends the next week *at school* worrying about whether or not she is pregnant. No school is in session the week after Christmas. Yes, I'm quibbling -- but there are a number of little instances where unnecessary details are added that only highlight the fact Tashiro is using a (probably completely) made-up story. Also, the book jacket copy promises the answers t... moreo questions that I had to search to find afterwards and weren't actually major parts of the book.Finally, this is main premise: That you only get to pick three major traits in your partner before making it statistically impossible that you will find someone who meets all the measures. I understand the math, but I don't buy it. My husband of nearly 20 years had a huge list of bizarre and picky "requirements" for his spouse. I ain't all that wonderful, and I met far more than three of them. I think there's far more to the reasons why people have trouble finding a partner -- it's not that all people are picky about their requirements but that they don't recognize when someone meets them. I know I didn't. A lot of it seems to about being open to different people who have been put in your path.
review 2: I won this book in a FirstReads giveaway and found it really interesting. It takes a more scientific approach to finding love and explains why selecting a mate as our ancestors did (to ensure strong genes are passed on) no longer works in modern society. As our life expectancy has increased the importance of actually being able to get along with our partner has become much more important and many of the traits that ensured survival in the past (beauty, risk taking, novelty seeking, etc) make for the worst partners in modern times. It also shows how statistically we really can't be very picky when evaluating others as potential mates; if you choose more than three traits you've severely limited the likelihood that such a person even exists. Some people might find that depressing, but it does make sense and it also explains why some people consistently date the "wrong" people. I'd definitely recommend this book to anyone who is looking for a more logical way to find a mate...anyone who has already tried the typical "self-help" methods and found them ineffective. less

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