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How To Hug A Teenage Porcupine (2004)

by John Lewis Lund(Favorite Author)

4.58 of 5 Votes: 1

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English

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Nonfiction

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Covenant Communications

review 1: A delightful series of several talks integrated onto 4 CDs 1. The Art of Parenting2. Five Governing Values of Teens3. Dealing with Noncompliant TeensThe author not only has broad experience with, but understands how teens think, and how to interact with them. I have only captured a few of his points, but he was kind enough to say what he was going to say, say it, and then summarize, so here are a few things that I learned.Teens and parents have different values. Teen values: Fun, Friends, Freedom. Parent values: Responsibility. The teens know your values. A talking head endlessly repeating those values won't cause them to adopt those values. He even covers what to do with compliant children so they don't get discouraged!Teens and grandparents get along because they have ... moresimilar values.There are only three ways that teens (people) learn:- by what they see- by what they hear- by what they experienceLove and Trust are different. Loving someone does not mean that we trust them. You need to have an “I trust you program” separate from an “I love you program.” Most parents have proven themselves untrustworthy. How to become a trustworthy parent (and thus stop being manipulated into enabling self-destructive children.)This was much more interesting than many pop psychology books because - it is applied psychology- it applies to a very narrow set of interactions (teens)- it clearly separates what works from what doesn't - it contains serious examples delivered with hit-home humor.Although my family is largely past this phase, yet I look forward to listening to this program again.
review 2: I love this CD. Though it is given to an LDS audience there is not a whole lot of LDS ideas in it so people of all faiths or no faith can get something out of it. I've starting using some of the ideas from it and found they are helping a LOT. The only reason I haven't given it a 5 is that I would like a little more practical ideas on how to set boundaries when dealing with a child who is not compliant and how to talk with a teen when negotiating those boundaries. less

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