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Who's Got Your Back: The Breakthrough Program To Build Deep, Trusting Relationships That Create Success--And Won't Let You Fail (2009)

by Keith Ferrazzi(Favorite Author)

3.61 of 5 Votes: 3

ISBN

0385521332 (ISBN13: 9780385521338)

languge

English

genre

Nonfiction

publisher

Crown Business

review 1: Largely a rehash of "Never Eat Alone" - Ferrazzi's book differentiates itself a little in his focus on the importance of vulnerability and steps you can take to build a support network. Interestingly, he draws attention to secret societies at Yale as institutions that do a great job of creating support networks built on radical honesty and vulnerability. However, he toots his own horn a bit too much in this book and it comes off more like an infomercial for Ferrazzi Greenlight than a real book
review 2: Adored this at first; now I'm stuck. I don't want to read it any more, probably because the idea of trying to establish these relationships seems exhausting and difficult now, whereas at first it seemed like the magical solution to all of my problems. Blah....Ou... moret of renewals. Left off p. 154.Notes:4 mindsets to building lifeline relationships:- generosity (mutual support, safe place)- vulnerability- candor- accountabilityCan have people at whatever level of careers/hierarchy; within the trusted circle of advisors, they're peers.Candor--we're afraid of hearing/acknowledging our shortcomings, but they're there anyway, and everyone knows about them. Really no risk here. If we hear the truth, at least we can work on it and do better.Steps to get more candor in your life:- find people you respect- create the opportunity (ask for real, objective criticism/feedback)- make it clear any feedback you get is a gift- acknowledge your faults (ex. "Listen, I know I've got plenty of stuff to work on, but I hoped you might be able to point out a few things in particular that I could focus on."- tell the other person what you plan to do with the advice (ex. prioritize what to focus on first)- don't tell them what you want to hear (don't lead the witness)- ask specific questions (ex. "I think I may come across too strong. What do you think? Examples?")- take it or leave it--but deliver on safety (you decide what to do with it, but thank the person no matter what)- paying them back (returning candid feedback if the person wants, or just thanks and good feeling of having helped someone)Building your dream team- articulate your vision- find your lifeline relationships- practice the art of the long slow dinner- broaden your goal-setting strategy (skills and knowledge you'll need to achieve your goals)- create your personal success wheel- learn to fight- diagnose your weaknesses- commit to improvement- fake it 'til you make it--then make it stickGoals- performance goals (get buff, lose 20 pounds)- learning goals (learn the best way to get in shape, find 5 new marketing tactics)- stretch goals (require a total transformation to reach)Focus your energy on learning goals--they support the others, and no failure. less

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