I am what is commonly referred to as a hopeless romantic and I have been for the longest time. I have had my share of disappointments in the relationship world like you wouldn’t believe! and even so, I am among the few remaining believers of that pure kind of love.
However, I have recently come to find that although you may believe in such a love, doesn’t mean you’ll be among the lucky few to experience it. You see unfortunately we don’t live in Shakespeare’s mind nor E. L. James’, no, we now live in a world dominated by betrayal, jealousy, hate and few are remaining that have good intentions.
Just because the world is cruel doesn’t mean you should be too, but darling, man or woman for the love of whatever you believe in, be wise! Recently, though often discouraged, I took a trip down memory lane and boy are there many things I’d have done differently had I known better. Relationships, friendships, money decisions name it.
Think of all those relationships you invested a lot of money, time and effort only for them to last a month or two and if lucky a year or so before you got burned. But that didn’t stop you, you ‘fell in love’ yet again and again and are probably still doing it. Ask yourself a genuine question, what have you got to show for all that love you went giving around?
People are out here judging sugar babes, sugar boys, sugar mamas, sugar daddies but lemme ask, on what grounds are you judging them? Biblically? Morally? Well, have I got news for you! They are just committing sin differently from you, the only difference is they don’t go around with a ‘holier than thou’ attitude and they play smart, if I may so call it.
How many people have you slept with in the name of love and fun? 1? 5? 30? …Rhetorical. Are you still together, does he/she still consider you as his/her muse? No? Okay, then How many mansions, cars, gone trips have you got to show for it? I? none? Well, your fellow ‘morally corrupt’ counterparts have quite an impressive list. So, now you tell me, who has it better?
Being lukewarm won’t get you anywhere, not even heaven. So instead of playing judge, seriously look at your life. I am for love and I will always be but I refuse to be blind. I’m not advocating for sex for money/benefits, all I am saying is, understand love.
A friend of mine was arguing that love is overrated, I see her point now, it is. What most of you call love isn’t love but rather a mirage. A few people know this and refuse to get entangled in something that’s full of lies and unreasonable expectations, so what do they do instead? They look for a quid pro quo arrangement, funny but some end up together. Why? Its foundation was honest.
If I ever have a child, I will tell him/her, “You will meet a lot of boy/girls, my love, they will at some point feel like your life. But take it from me, you are not destined to be with all of them, so slow down, know yourself first, follow your dreams, grow, fall in love with yourself for only then will you know when another truly loves you.”
I will also add, “Let no one lie to you, a life without money is hard, sad and painful, it’s like a prolonged heartbreak. But don’t focus on either so much that you end up a rich loner or a poor man/woman in love.”
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