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Before You Do: Making Great Decisions That You Won't Regret (2008)

by T.D. Jakes(Favorite Author)

4.16 of 5 Votes: 4

ISBN

1416547282 (ISBN13: 9781416547280)

languge

English

genre

Nonfiction

publisher

Atria Books

review 1: Making Great Decisions is written to guide readers into realistic expectations towards your relationships and researching who they really truly are. People will always reveal and display their feelings through their thoughts, words, behaviors, and actions. Bishop Jakes is a firm believer in asking the important questions and then weighing the response we receive in our relationships. Often times we fail to ask our dating partners the right kind of questions, then we are shocked when later they share their own opinions and ideas in marriage. It’s critical that we must accept responsibility for where we are currently in life and not to easily shift the blame to our parents or our spouse. Blaming doesn’t help our relationships improve it only hinders our personal growth p... morerocess. One of the essentials before we date is to deal with our own hurts, disappointments, regrets, and pain from past experiences and relationships. Freedom comes when we heal and let go of the need to justify and reimburse our deepest pain. It’s vital in realizing that the new relationship can’t fix the old relationship issues. Don’t take out your frustration on the people who didn’t cause the harm to you in the first place! Bishop Jakes described that many people are wearing emotional condoms to protect themselves from future hurts and disappointments. As we get older it tends to get harder and harder to fall in love again. This book provides the fundamental keys for entering dating, marriage, having children, career, buying a house, and many other helpful tools. This book also contained twenty questions to ask before you get engaged.I would recommend this life enhancing relationship book to anyone thinking about dating and is planning on getting married someday. Marriage is an enormous commitment that many of us don’t take seriously enough. We are all longing to connect deeper to a partner but we forget to ask the significant questions before we say I do. I do have just become words without meaning and we are failing to grasp the impact of keeping our word! Sickness and in health, rich or poor actually means something who would have thought. I especially loved the transparency Bishop Jakes showed throughout this book. He compared the woman in the Bible having ten coins and she lost one coin to people searching for their marriage partner. She kept looking for her lost coin until she found it. Bishop Jakes helped me to see that it is perfectly normal to be honest that I do want a relationship. Finding someone to date and marry is a risk but it’s worth taking. Part of discovering a marriage partner you want is to research and study your relationship. I immensely enjoyed the twenty questions to ask before you get engaged. One of my favorite questions was, “What do you expect?” Many times I am expecting that my spouse will be just like me and be interested in the same type of things or hobbies that I take pleasure in. Meanwhile, she is expecting me to act a certain way and I usually don’t even know she was expecting. And she doesn’t know what I’m expecting! It can be complicating but as a marriage couple you have to learn to describe and communicate what each other is expecting in your relationship. Another question Bishop Jakes shared was, “What are your ideas about sexuality”? Before reading this book, I never would have even considered asking this type of question before engagement. I would have waiting until marriage then I would have encountered disappointment and my expectations would have caused great conflict. Sex is an aspect of a healthy marriage but it isn’t only the end goal. Marriage is much more than just sex and procreation. This book had many features and imperative questions we must ask each other before we arrive at the altar to say I do. Though the questions presented in this book may be difficult at times to ask and answer, failing to have a discussion leads to confusion and conflict down the road in marriage. I am single and I have already decided that before I get engaged we will be going through these questions together as a couple. This book will strength your dating relationships and assist you in deeming who you will marry. Marriage and choosing who to spend the rest of your life with is a gigantic decision we can’t take lightly. We have to investigate our dating relationships and watch for the signs of who they truly are! Pay attention to the clues!! If you’re looking for a marriage partner, please read this book you will be blessed and forever changed and you will learn the skills and tools to succeed in marriage and other important decisions!
review 2: Loy Machedo’s Book Review – Making Great Decisions Reflections by T.D. JakesI was at Hyper-Panda (a mega-supermarket) and as usual at the favorite section of the market – The book section, searching for yet another good book to may be read and add to my collection. My eyes fell towards the shelf titled ‘Killer Price – Books to Clear’. Priced from around 2$ to 5$, among them, I found a few interesting titles and this was one of them.So who is T. D. Jakes? - Jakes is the CEO of TDJ Enterprises, LLP; founder and senior pastor of The Potter’s House of Dallas, Inc., which has over 30,000 members; and the author of the New York Times bestselling Making Great Decisions and Reposition Yourself. Time magazine and CNN referred to him as “America’s Best Preacher.” - His TV show, The Potter’s Touch, reaches 67 million households per month. He has been the host of national radio and television broadcasts and is regularly featured on the highly rated Dr. Phil show. He lives in Dallas, Texas with his wife, five children, and two grandchildren. - In 2005 Jakes accompanied President George W. Bush on his visit to the areas devastated by Hurricane Katrina. In his book Decision Points, President Bush describes Jakes as “a kind of man who puts faith into action.” - On January 20, 2009, Jakes led the early morning prayer service for President Barack Obama at St. John’s Church in Washington, D.C., according to NBC News. - Among the many books he has authored, his top 5 (as per amazon are) Let It Go: Forgive So You Can Be Forgiven, Healing the Wounds of the Past, Promises From God For Single Women, Reposition Yourself: Living Life Without Limits and T. D. Jakes Speaks to Men, 3-in-1So now this book – Making Great Decisions Reflections – How was it?Here is the Good, the Not-so-Good and the Overall review.The Good. - Simple easy to read book. - There are some worthwhile lines in the book. - A book that stems from years of preaching and wisdom.The Not-So-Good - The book is wrongly titled – The majority of the content was focused on being careful about taking steps towards divorce or cheating on your partner. - The whole book of around 235 pages could have been reduced to 10 pages had the extra-fluff been removed - It’s a book you will read once and not bother to ever look at it again.Overall ReviewA book that may appeal to a Christian Group with all its soulful mumbo-jumbo being preached left, right and center. The big question however is the branding of the Black Preacher (or is the right term Afro-American….Don’t know what is the right term used right now in the West to identify an American of African Decent – My apologies if I goofed up here) who came across more like the Donald Trump version of the Black Christian Faith. His photograph (and photographs in all his books) make him look pretty stylish, with his branded suits, cufflinks and designer ties. And then you begin to wonder….wow…the Christian faith has really transformed itself now…hasn’t it?Don’t know what happened to the Christian lifestyle of live humble and simple…..Anyways….a book you will read once and forget you ever read it.Overall Ratings4 out of 10Loy Machedoloymachedo.com less

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