Rate this book

Fidelity: How To Create A Loving Relationship That Lasts (2011)

by Thích Nhất Hạnh(Favorite Author)

4.1 of 5 Votes: 3

ISBN

1935209914 (ISBN13: 9781935209911)

languge

English

genre

Nonfiction

publisher

Parallax Press

review 1: Thich Nhat Hahn writes from the most lovely place of peace and love. This book is one that every person that is in a relationship, or would like to be in one that is healthy at some point, could benefit from. Some much of this book is about loving yourself. Loving enough to be accepting of yourself, see your feelings clearly and finding a way to nurture whatever it is that you do feel. There is no "wrong" feeling, but you must find the reason for them and the clarity in what they tell you about your own issues.Love has no attachment. This is a hard one for western minds to hear. I've tried to explain it, but it is so foreign. We've all heard the saying were if you love someone, set them free- if they return it was meant to be, if not, then it wasn't. It is sort of l... moreike that, but there is never any ownership of any kind at any point. There is just love. Not need. Not that you aren't there for your loved ones and that they aren't there for you, but it is not an obligation. It is an honest decision from love. If you love, you will be there. If you are loved, they will be too. It is so very simple. The only reason I can't give it 5 stars (I'd do 4.5 if I could!) is because there is more buddhist influence and more monk influence than suits me at certain points (the end, mainly). Monks are humans with sexual feelings too, but not allowed to express that, so I would say that the nurturing those feelings into something other than passion is the goal for the author, whereas a healthy adult with a sexual appetite might opt to manifest that sexual energy in a way that is acceptable rather than changing those feelings. It wasn't a pervasive message, but one that was there and didn't ring as true for me. That being said, it is a wonderful book and I feel that it has helped me grow in many ways. My husband (not a reader) read it too and felt very much the same.
review 2: i only give it three compared to his other books. ok i bumped it to four. this was a fast read, which is good and bad i suppose. i wish it had a bit more about keeping love together after the long haul, and a bit less focus on sensual love, but it had a lot of great stuff he mentioned on retreat like watering the good seeds in your partner. of course, we should be doing that with everyone. i underlined a lot in this book. less

Download links for: Fidelity: How to Create a Loving Relationship That Lasts

Advertising