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Six Ways To Keep The "Good" In Your Boy: Guiding Your Son From His Tweens To His Teens (2012)

by Dannah Gresh(Favorite Author)

3.99 of 5 Votes: 3

ISBN

0736945792 (ISBN13: 9780736945790)

languge

English

genre

Nonfiction

publisher

Harvest House Publishers

review 1: Some really worthwhile advice for any parent struggling to help their son stay on the straight & narrow."It doesn't matter what connects you. It just matters that you create intentional togetherness--and a lot of it.""My kids are individuals. They each connect differently to me.""Your child is more likely to experience positive, prosocial behavior if he or she experiences parent-child connectedness."Deuteronomy 11:18-19 Proverbs 22:6 & 31"It was a mark of his significance that I gave him my time. I now know that it was important for my son to just simple have me set that time apart to focus on him. I honored him with time, and he noticed."" Your son's community should be made up of Dad, other men your son can look up to as role models, and peers who choose to live well and... more have the parental support to do so.""I want you to know that you have permission to speak to my son the way a dad ought to. If you see him out of line, you may speak into his life."Male call of duty to protect vs. false sense of purpose or mission. Your son needs to save the world & conquer. Gaming=isolation.Give him books that push him to be more than he is. *Dangerous Book for Boys*1-2 hours day screen time. Push him to go outside. Prepare to be the bad guy."Our boys need a little bit of physical adventure to discover their purpose and to have an outlet for the desire to take risks and be aggressive."Contract of sexual purity? Weekly Father-Son time & $ to invest. Initiate him into your adult community. Encourage good friendships."Reputation is what people think you are. Character is who you are when no one is around."Aggressive girls vs. good girls--differences? Talk about it.Set a standard of restraint in regards to your son's sexual behavior. Wet dreams are a sign of heroic sexual purity. They show that a boy is not masturbating voluntarily & not indulging in selfish self-pleasuring."Today's porn doesn't just misuse God's gift of sexuality--it misrepresents it grotesquely." Aggressiveness--lack of connection--using each other.***Look for Safe eyes & Covenant eyes filters. Internetsafety.comPorn=toilet waterEat together & NO screens!The brain--use it or lose it.Proverbs 4:23 Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.2 Timothy 3:1-5ServiceHonorIntegrityGentlemanly behaviorProverbs 31Ephesians 5:3 & 25-29"Positive messages are more potent than negative ones."A man is charged with heading his family's spiritual well-being."Remind your son often that the purity of any of his relationships with women is his responsibility, not theirs, and define the boundaries clearly for him."
review 2: I'm not sure if I gained anything from my reading of this book, except perhaps that it led me to focus more on raising my sons. I'm trying to build my relationship with one of my "tweens" right now. Gresh is a tolerable but not articulate or eloquent writer. The six ways she outlines seemed unoriginal to me and didn't add anything new to my parenting approach. Here they are: #1: Get Him Outside to Play, #2: Give Him a Book So He Can Discover a Real "Call of Duty," #3: Host Wing Nites and Fantasy Football Parties, #4: Celebrate His Entrance into Manhood, #5: Unplug Him from a Plugged-In World, and #6: Let Him Open the Car Door for You. In my words: your son should play outside, read good books, spend time with dad and other men, have conversations with parents about the birds and the bees, have limits on electronics, and respect women. No novelty there and not expressed profoundly either. Gresh's one strength seems to be in biblical exegesis. She interpreted a couple of scriptures, Proverbs 22:6 and 2 Timothy 3, by going back to the original Hebrew and Greek and gave me new insight into those passages. I will forever see those scriptures differently, and for that I am grateful. This could be a good selection for Christian parents wanting help in guiding their sons but is not a place to seek out new ideas or quotable passages. less

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