Just how no two love stories are alike, the definition of love too is not homogeneous. Different people have different definitions of it, and each arrives at their opinions through their own experiences. Over the years, with the intervention of technology and the extinction of handwritten letters, the emotion has undergone a sea of change. But despite the seeming disparity, there is an unmistakable similarity that pervades through these definitions.
Most of the people I know agree that, amidst other things, love is essentially a habit. It doesn’t happen overnight, it unfolds patiently, over days, months, and years. With increasing encounters, an unsaid pattern develops among the partners as each begins to know how the other will respond to a given situation. You know how your name will sound from your partner’s mouth as, little by little, you begin to know the person like the back of your hand.
But not everyone believes that a relationship needs to culminate into marriage. Several couples, who live together, don’t necessarily want to get married, and it has nothing to do with how much they love each other. Some compromise and tie the knot because of social pressure, and some do it for legal reasons. But sometimes both the partners may not be on the same page when it comes to getting hitched.
Due to frequent flings and our laid back attitude towards a committed relationship, new dating trends are emerging every day. In the age of online dating, and thanks to dating apps like #Tinder, #Happen, #Aisle, #Skout, #Badoo, #Nearby, #WOO, etc every day we are encountering a new trend in dating. You know what sexting is, and you’ve heard the term ‘fuck-buddy’ before. ‘Friends with Benefits,’ ‘Tindering,’ ‘Bae’ are all terms which are not alien to you. All this might lead you to think you know all about the lingo that rules modern-day dating. Well, think again.
Here is our compilation of all the terms people cannot stop using in the contemporary dating scene. Here’s to keeping you updated, and the world even more confused about love in the 21st century.
Friends with Benefits:
2 close friends who think it would be fun to have sex with each other again and again. In such a relationship, unlike the conventional ones, people involved in such relationship do acknowledge each other’s feelings, even reciprocate it. But they do not plan a hypothetical future together, as people in love often tend to do. They focus only on the present moment, and all their plans revolve around that. There is no mutual extraction of promises to be remembered, no secrets are shared, and no tears are shed.
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One Night Stand:
A one-night stand is a single sexual encounter in which there is an expectation that there shall be no further relations between the sexual participants. Personally if u ask me I can’t try and do something nice for my casual hookup because that might bring down my market value. In the economics of modern relationships, thoughtlessness is the hot currency. There is no dressing up and going out because Netflix and Chill is the norm now.
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Sugar Daddy:
A well-to-do usually older man who supports or spends lavishly on a mistress, girlfriend, or boyfriend in return for companionship or sexual favours. Because of the somewhat taboo nature of sugar daddying or having a sugar daddy, most of these types of relationships are top secret and hush hush. You won’t usually know that that 22 year old woman has a secret 51 year old sugar daddy who earns $60,000-$1,000,000 annually and provides for her as if she were his wife.
Incest:
Over the years, Game of Thrones has mastered the art of shocking its viewers. But the very first twist that left them stunned was the fact that the Lannister Twins, Jaime and Cersei, were lovers and had three kids together. Their affair was what got the ball rolling in the show, and while their relationship is not part of the central plot very often now, the show still managed to turn a cultural taboo into one of its most enduring relationships. In India, several practices are considered taboo, and though people have differing opinions on some of them, incest – sexual relations between close relatives – is widely considered unacceptable.
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Cushioning:
A dating technique where along with your main partner you also have several ‘cushions’, other people you’ll chat and flirt with to cushion the potential blow of your main break-up and not leave you alone. Cushioning means having a backup plan in case something happens in your current relationship or it goes awry. In such cases, one basically finds another person or persons while already being in a relationship. In short, one tries to devise a fallback plan for themselves.
Stashing:
Stashing is when you’re in a relationship with someone and you refuse to introduce them to your friends and family, mostly because you view the person as temporary, replaceable, and/or you are not up to their level.
Fuck Buddy:
A partner to whom you have no special attachment. A person you occasionally have sex with who is not yours. A fuck buddy is similar to a friend with benefits. All the benefits of being in a relationship minus the bullshit like not doing enough for Valentine’s Day or her birthday, not spending 3 months’ salary on a stupid ring, and not spending enough quality time with him/her. It’s convenient, it may be a habit, but one that one can grows out of, without damaging much.”
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Casual Sex:
Sex that involves two people who have no desire or intention of ever committing to any type of exclusive relationship with each other. This eliminates many stressful factors that may accompany a committed relationship such as: jealousy, mind games, verbal and/or physical abuse, marriage, accountability of daily actions/whereabouts, lack of quality and/or frequency in sexual activity, boredom, and many more I’m sure.
Well the world is moving on a fast pace and so are we. But what about the romance of the first date, the expectations, and the surprise. I am not up for Netflix and Chill on the first date. I am vehemently opposed to calling a date a casual ‘Hang out’ ‘Fuck casual’, there’s nothing ordinary about me spending five hours to get ready for a date. No matter what you call it, I am still going to take the same amount of time to decide which jeans makes my ass look great.
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