Weird, Chapters 10-12

 

Okay so the next 3 chapters in this book deal with sex. I am going to summarize the chapters into one post because let’s face it, this is an uncomfortable topic. Maybe it shouldn’t be but for me, it is. It’s just not a topic I’m comfortable talking about.

Chapter 10 deals with adultery.

According to the Journal of Psychology and Christianity, up to 65 percent of husbands and 55 percent of wives will commit adultery by the age of 40

No one plans committing adultery, obviously. So how is it that people find themselves in that situation?  Easy: Satan.  We have a spiritual enemy whose mission is to steal, kill and destroy everything that matters to God. One of Satan’s greatest tricks is to convince us “that’ll never happen to me.”

Your journey begins will just one single, small, seemingly innocent, subtly seductive step. Followed by another then another.

The best way to avoid taking those first steps is to “nurture and cultivate your relationship with Christ.”

We must stay in God’s Word, allowing His Spirit to lead us. If our relationship is truly healthy and fruitful, we’ll “either immediately remove ourselves from the dangerous opportunity to sin or stop and turn back to Him the instant we recognize you’re walking into a trap.”

So how do we remain strong enough to resist sexual temptation? This is the way Groeschel puts it:

When the grass starts to look greener on somewhere else, water your own yard!

Chapter 11 opens up with Groeschel mentioning how on the show I Love Lucy, even though Lucy and Ricky were married on the show and in real life, they slept in separate beds. “Network censors insisted that the Ricardo’s bedroom scene remain as chaste and nonsuggestive as possible.”

I always wondered that when I watched the show. I love this show. And I always found it weird that they didn’t sleep in the same bed even though they were married. But back then things were different.

Oh if only we could go back to that today. Today we live in a “sexually saturated culture.” Explicit images haunt us all the time, anonymous “cyber encounters lure us.”

In contrast to the beautiful music that God intends between a husband and wife, now we hear countless “sex cymbals” clanging in our ears.

Loveless and lust based , sex cymbals promise instant gratification and fulfillment of our every fantasy but ultimately leave us empty and broken.

If we don’t guard against them, our culture’s seductive siren will drown out the sound of God’s voice.

Some Bricks for Your Wall

Groeschel admits the following principles are weird but we must keep in mind that we want results that are weird as well. We don’t WANT to be normal, remember?

  • Dress for spiritual success–Dress in a way that brings glory to God. Simply put, “be modest!” Romans 14:13 says “Decide…to live in such a way that you will not cause another believer to stumble and fall”
  • Keep four feet on the floor–if you’re dating, don’t put yourself in a situation where it will be easy to fall into temptation. Don’t sit on a bed to do your Bible study together. Don’t wrap your legs around each other. Keep your feet on the floor.
  • No playing house, and no sleepovers
  • No tonsil hockey
  • Avoid dangerous places–these places are different for everyone. Don’t go where it will cause you to fall into temptation
  • Avoid time alone with the wrong people
  • Guard your eyes, your mind, and your heart
  • If computer porn is a problem, have your internet monitored
  • Chapter 12 talks about sex education

    Sex education may be a good idea in the schools, but I don’t believe the kids should be given homework.

    Bill Cosby

    The chapter opens up with a story of a father coming home from work and his 8-year-old daughter came to greet him. The dad stooped to her level, hugged her and they walked up the sidewalk together. The little girl looked up into his face and asked “Daddy, what is sex?”

    The father’s mind started reeling. Maybe he should get his wife to have this talk. No, he could do it. He was strong enough to have this conversation. So as he stammered his way through the “talk” at the end he asked her if she had any questions. The little girl said “Oh yeah, um, well I don’t get all that, Daddy. But I was gonna ask you before….Mommy’s in the kitchen. When you drove up, she told me to come and tell you dinner would be ready in a couple of secs. What is secs?”

    “Most of us don’t know how to talk to our kids about sex. It’s awkward and uncomfortable and it’s hard to steer the conversation the way you want. “

    In today’s society, sex is everywhere. User manuals are available everywhere. “Most parents choose by default to allow complete strangers to inform their kids about sex and to influence how they’ll behave with this new information.”

    But as Christians, we must remember that “we’re part of a war. We have a spiritual enemy who wants to steal our kid’s purity and destroy as many of them as he can.”

    Satan is trying to normalize sex and neutralize the sinful consequences of disobeying God.

    Consider these 5 lies Satan is pushing on your kids right now:

  • Sex is no big deal–it’s like eating, sleeping, breathing
  • Oral sex doesn’t really count
  • Bisexuality is cool
  • Porn is another great way to explore your sexuality
  • Modesty is for losers
  • However, once we’ve identified Satan’s blatant lies, its “important to contrast it with something truly sweet: the truth of Jesus.

    John 8:32 says “Then you will know the truth and the truth will set you free.”

    We must know what the Scriptures say about sex because “even if you accept and trust the Bible as God’s inspire, authoritative Word” if we don’t get into God’s Word daily, “it’s easy to believe unbiblical messages from non-Christian sources.”

     

     

     

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